Your Divorce Anniversary Can Be a Time for Celebration or Self-Care

Divorce lawyers and divorced friends may try to encourage you and cheer you up by telling you that the hardest part of divorce is while your case is pending, that it all gets easier once the court formally dissolves your marriage.  They are correct to some extent, and for the months following your divorce becoming final, you are in survival mode.  Getting through the day takes all of your energy, and you don’t give much thought to how much time has passed since your divorce became official.  Therefore, your divorce anniversary can sneak up on you.  How you feel about having been divorced for a year may surprise you, too.  There is no right or wrong way to feel about your divorce a year after it happens, but you are certain to be in a better frame of mind if a Mississauga divorce lawyer helps you accomplish your divorce such that there are no residual legal disputes a year later.

If You Are Sad on Your Divorce Anniversary

Anniversaries of a loss can cause feelings of grief to come flooding back, so you may find yourself grieving your former marriage when you have been single for exactly a year.  If this happens, the best way to deal with it is to focus on self-care and on your bright future.  Get together with a friend or family member to talk about your feelings and reflect on the past year.  It is also a good idea to work on a project that you have been meaning to do since your divorce became final but have not gotten around to doing, such as updating your estate plan or decluttering your house.

If You Are Happy About Your Divorce Anniversary

If you feel like celebrating your divorce anniversary, then celebrate.  Gather your friends and family and celebrate the people who have been there for you before, during, and after your divorce.  The mood of your divorce anniversary party can be as snarky or as warm and fuzzy as you are feeling.  On the first anniversary of your divorce, it probably isn’t advisable to invite your ex-spouse to the party, but maybe in future years, both former spouses can get together with their children and their extended families to celebrate being divorced co-parents.

Wellbeing Is the Best Form of Revenge

If you are still feeling acutely angry a year after your divorce, then a divorce anniversary party probably isn’t the best idea.  Instead, you should just focus on having a normal day and living your best life as a single person.  If you have entered a new relationship, enjoy the company of your new partner, and let your ex-spouse be the farthest thing from your mind.

Contact Zagazeta Garcia LLP About Getting Used to a New Normal After Divorce

A family law attorney can help you accomplish your divorce so that you can be in a good position emotionally and financially a year after your divorce.  Contact Zagazeta Garcia LLP in Mississauga, Ontario to discuss your case.

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